Where Are You From? To Ask or Not to Ask?

Now it’s your turn! Please, leave us a comment below.
How do you answer where are you from question?
What would be your advice to people about asking or answering this question?

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How many people, do you think, move every year into a new country?
According to UNFPA, the United Nations Population Fund, every year, some 214 million people — 3 per cent of the world's population — lived outside their country of origin.
That’s a lot!
I am sure each one of those 214 million people, including you and me, at some point was asked, “Where are you from?”
Seems to be a pretty ordinary question - just a friendly gesture of normal human curiosity. Many people are not bothered by this question at all. But many are bothered! As one of my Facebook friends, who recently posted, “Stop asking me where I am from! Please. Stop!”
 
I personally notice some little tension inside me when I’m asked this question. My attention drifts away from the conversation.

Here's one quote for you:
Alexandar Hemon about the question "Where are you from?" And his answer, "I'm complicated".
"Claiming [my] complicatedness meant acknowledging the complexity of history and human experience and rejecting being reduced to some essence that would (ethnically) predetermine my ethos and delimit my humanity. Being complicated meant being irreducible to an essentialist position".

Keynote speech at The Global Soul symposium, Georgetown University, Washington, DC
Aleksandar Hemon is a Bosnian-born American fiction writer, essayist, and critic. His best known novels are Nowhere Man and The Lazarus Project.

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Live, Love and Create Across the Globe!

Oxana
P.S. As I was in my “statistics lover” mood I checked who had more Miss Universe, Russia or Venezuela.  Cecilia was right! Venezuela has won more major international beauty competitions than any other nation, including now seven Miss Universe titles. Wow!

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Oxana Holtmann

Oxana Holtmann is a Conscious Living coach and an advisor to globally mobile professionals and their life partners. She is the founder of Oxana Holtmann International, a coaching platform that promotes true homecoming through mindfulness, body intelligence, wonder and co-creativity at work and in relationships. Oxana loves writing, discovering and disseminating practical wisdom, and noticing everyday beauty. Oxana grew up in Siberia and now lives with her family in Washington, D.C.