Say More Words

Sometimes words get in the way. And it only means that we need more practice saying them. Words can be tremendously nourishing.

We need more practice with expressing ourselves in words especially when we want to convey the tenderness inside us and the feelings of appreciation and admiration. Without practice, our words may come out as half-baked cookies. Our best effort may sound like a blunder that fails to deliver the depth of our emotion.

That’s why it’s so important to keep saying good words. Don’t worry if others think you are tongue-tied, inarticulate, or incoherent. Risk being misunderstood, stared upon, and awkward. Choose to practice your self-expression, otherwise your appreciation of other people will be forever buried inside you.

Most of us got our master’s degree in criticism and critical analysis. Very few of us are masters of genuine appreciation. It takes time to become comfortable with and good at saying out loud positive things to other people.

If you practice enough you’ll become more eloquent and precise in your expression. You’ll use more adjectives and verbs that closely describe the good that you see in the other. Words will suddenly fit naturally even into very intimate situations. But first, you need to give yourself permission to start saying more words.


Oxana Holtmann

Oxana Holtmann is a Conscious Living coach and an advisor to globally mobile professionals and their life partners. She is the founder of Oxana Holtmann International, a coaching platform that promotes true homecoming through mindfulness, body intelligence, wonder and co-creativity at work and in relationships. Oxana loves writing, discovering and disseminating practical wisdom, and noticing everyday beauty. Oxana grew up in Siberia and now lives with her family in Washington, D.C.